The Mindset Shifts That Changed Everything for Me After 40
✨What if I told you the best part of your story doesn’t start until after 40?✨
At 38, I was tired—not just from sleepless nights (hello, toddler life) but from juggling a career that left me feeling overworked and stretched thin. I had my first child at 36 and I absolutely LOVED being a mom. I found myself wanting more time with my baby and less time caught up in the grind. Somewhere along the way, I stopped caring about the little things that once brought me joy, like doing my hair or wearing makeup.
Then, at 40, I had my second baby—and shortly after, the pandemic hit. The world came to a standstill, and with it, my busy career. That unexpected pause forced me to slow down and reflect on what really mattered. I realized that if I didn’t take care of myself, I couldn’t fully enjoy this beautiful life I was working so hard to build. Fast forward to 45, and I can honestly say I feel more alive, confident, and myself than ever. Here’s what shifted for me—and what I hope will inspire you too.
1. Your 30s Aren’t a Deadline—They’re a Warm-Up
In my 30s, I felt like I had to have it all figured out: the career, the family, the perfect skin (spoiler: that doesn’t exist). But here’s the secret no one tells you: You have time. Your 30s are the warm-up for what’s next. When I hit 40, I realized I could rewrite my story however I wanted—and so can you.
If there’s something tugging at your heart—like a passion project, a new career, or even a beauty trend you want to try (red lipstick, anyone?)—do it now. You’re not running out of time.
2. Confidence Doesn’t Come From Perfection
I wasted so much energy in my 30s trying to be perfect—perfect mom, perfect employee, perfect body. At 40, I gave myself permission to be real instead of perfect. You’d be amazed how freeing it is to show up as you are, flaws and all.
Try just taking one step toward feeling good in your skin every day. For me, that looks like committing to a skincare routine that actually works, running outside even when I’m slow, and unapologetically showing up with a bold lip.
3. Self-Care Isn’t a Luxury, It’s a Power Move
In my 30s, self-care felt selfish to me. But when I turned 40, I realized it’s the complete opposite. When I take time to oil my hair, journal, or even draw a bath, I’m giving myself permission to breathe. And when I feel grounded, I’m a better mom, partner, and friend.
Start with something small: maybe a skincare ritual that feels indulgent, or a 10-minute walk where you leave your phone behind. You’ll be surprised how it shifts your energy.
4. You’re Never Too Old to Start Over
This one might hit close to home. At 39, I left a career that made me miserable to chase something I’d always dreamed of—sharing my love of beauty and self-care with all of you online! It wasn’t easy, and it wasn’t instant. But at 45, I can tell you it was worth every scary moment.
If there’s something you’re holding back on because you think it’s “too late,” let me tell you: it’s not. The only thing standing in your way is the belief that it is.
Here’s What I Want You to Know
If you’re in your 30s and feeling stuck or overwhelmed, take it from me: Life doesn’t end at 40—it starts at 40. And the more you embrace that idea now, the more prepared you’ll be to step into this next, incredible chapter.
So, what’s one small shift you can make today to take care of your future self? I’d love to hear your thoughts—reply to this post or hit the “like” button if this resonated with you!